Do you remember when we were a nation of good manners?
When we were taught to say yes Ma’am or Sir or No Ma’am or Sir. Please and thank you were as much a part of our vocabulary as the words “I want.” It seems these days we have no difficulty in saying “I want,” but the thank you’s have gone by the way side. What has happened to us in the past few years?
I keep hearing the phrase “A Nanny State” but I don’t believe that is the answer, either. I think it may be that we are all so busy that the courtesies simply get forgotten. Life is no longer simple, everyone works from sun up till sundown. The paycheck is hard to come by and every penny spoken for before it clears the bank. And stress, there is always stress. But in some aspects it can be that we have become so use to the government services that we no longer look at them like a service but as an entitlement. I hate that.
When we get our hair done, go out to eat, get our nails done or anything of that nature, we leave a tip of at least 15 percent of the total cost and that is our thank you. We feel a sort of obligation to say thank you to the person actually providing the service by tipping. And that is lip service.
Okay so what brought on this rant? Well, it is quite simply my own failure to thank people who help us in watching over my father. Chesterfield County Council on Aging supplies services for our elderly that many of us take for granted. One of those things is delivering a lunch to their clients. I hate to even think it, but for some of these folks, it may even be the only meal they get Monday through Friday.
Well, I have been negligent in thanking these wonderful people on the board who do so much for so many. If my father doesn’t answer the door when they come by we get a call asking “is your dad okay? We can’t get him to the door.” That is caring. They could simply leave it and go on about their business, but they don’t.
So I want to take this opportunity to say thank you for your caring nature, for helping us to look after our parents. When I spoke to Donna Rivers this morning to pass on some information for her I told her how much we appreciated her and her team. She seemed shocked then laughed and said she didn’t hear that very often. Well Pat Lisenby, Jenny Allen, Jessica Carnes and Donna Rivers let me say it loud and clear — THANK YOU.
You would never know how much we appreciate you if we didn’t say so. A return to good manners and courtesy is what we need. Lets start now.